Do you need to build your resilience in the workplace?
Are you resilient enough at work?
It’s a difficult question to answer, you might consider yourself a strong manager – but return home and worry about work until the following morning. Then again, your work life balance might be great – but you’re finding it difficult to delegate to others in the office.
Resilience means different things to different people. We’ve posed 4 questions – have a look though, and if you find yourself answering ‘yes’ to any of them – you’ll find some interesting tips on how to turn your workplace resilience up a few clicks…
Question 1 – Are you lacking confidence?
There’s a huge amount more to human communication than just the words we use – and even body language experts don’t claim to understand everything that indicates our mental state to others – which is why confidence is important.
Studies show that boosting your confidence levels has a virtually immediate effect on the way you’re perceived in the workplace – and confidence is a commonly observed trait in higher earners. Try some of the following if you feel your confidence could do with a kickstart:
- Improve your workplace knowledge with reading, studying and asking questions
- Try to reduce or remove the amount of negative language you use to and about others
- Note something successful you have done every day – even if it’s just a tiny victory
- Use a journal to note instances of feeling under confident and ask yourself why
Awareness is everything when it comes to mastering your emotions – so even if you just start by understanding the situations in which you feel under confident, it’s a brilliant first step toward getting it under control.
Question 2 – Can you learn from failure?
There are so many platitudes that relate to failure – “there’s no such things as failure” – etc, but they’re all difficult to stomach if you’re in the wrong frame of mind.
If you’re not ready to embrace a super-positive quote every time you feel like you drop the ball at work, start by noting the instances where you feel like you’ve failed – perhaps keep a ‘failure journal’ – it might sound negative, but stick with us!
As with low confidence, understanding why you feel like you’ve failed is a big step to getting hold of the feelings and using them for something good – and you really can use feelings of failure to help yourself move forward. In your journal, keep the note of each failure to the top couple of lines of the page – and look back on it in a week. Do you feel the same about the failure now? Or has something good come from it? Use the rest of your page to reflect.
If nothing good has transpired, ask yourself if you’ve made the same mistake again? If the answer is no – then you’ve just found your first positive! Reframing failure is all about finding something that makes you develop. When you’ve found a development point for most of the things you write in the book, you’re well on your way to more confidence.
Oh, and don’t worry about crossing them all out. No matter what you think, no one’s perfect.
Question 3 – Do you have goals?
When we’re young we often have goals, whether it’s having a certain kind of house, driving a certain car, doing a particular job – and so forth.
When we get older, it’s easy to become embroiled in the day to day business of just getting to the end of the month with all the bills paid – so the dreams of jobs, supercars and fame go out of the window.
In reality, dreams and goals change – but having one is a great way to boost your confidence levels, giving you a reason to push yourself out of your comfort zone to achieve something – even something small – each day.
Think about where you’d like your life to be in 5 or 10 years – and don’t hinder yourself by thinking that you’re not resilient, skilled or confident enough to make it there. When you’ve got a goal, think about what you’d need to do between now and then to get there – and again, if it’s possible, break it down into chunks of effort you can make every day.
Perhaps you’d like to aim for a promotion, complete a triathlon, earn a certain amount of money, become an actor, write a book – or so forth. Almost everything can be achieved just one step at a time – and knowing you’re taking steps to make your life better is an amazing suit of armour to wear at work when you’re feeling a bit ground down.
Question 4 – Do you meditate or reflect on your day?
When people talking about meditation it’s easy to think of something that’s a spiritual practice, sitting with your legs crossed and thumbs touching forefingers. The truth is quite different.
Over 80% of large corporate CEOs and successful entrepreneurs have a meditation or quiet reflection practice – and the reason is all based in science. When you’re in the workplace and feeling slightly under confident, your levels of adrenaline and cortisol (the hormones that give you that feeling of fight or flight in the face of stress and worry) are increased – meaning your decision are made more quickly and in a snap fashion.
Unfortunately, that’s not how the best decisions are made, so taking time to be still, calm and reflective each day helps to slow those feelings. When you’re more sure of your reactions, you’re likely to find that confidence in those reactions also grows – and with it your resilience to any criticism.
Try taking 10 minutes a day to quietly sit and clear your mind. Concentrating on your breathing rather than your internal dialogue helps – as do apps like Headspace, Insight Timer or Aura.
Resilience, however that trait looks for you, isn’t something that just snaps into place overnight – and you’re never going to be 100% immune to the things that impact you and cause feelings of doubt.
Like many other traits, resilience needs to be worked – so even if the steps we’ve talked about might not feel like they key to bursting through your office door in a week’s time and taking the world on, you’ll be amazed how different you feel in a month – or a year’s time.